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There is a phenomenon that most people are unaware of; Facebook will ban you for reporting someone for making inappropriate comments. You think that’s not how it works? Well, you must not be trans.

I know some people are going to say that it isn’t true. They’re going to say that trans people are just too sensitive, and we should learn to take a joke. They will say that we are too confrontational, and if we just backed off, we wouldn’t get in trouble. These people are all wrong.

I’m not talking about making rude comments on some transphobes page…

Some definitions before the story:


  1. to make able; give power, means, competence, or ability to:
  2. to make possible or easy:


  1. to inspire with courage, spirit, or confidence:
  2. to stimulate by assistance, approval, etc.:

Enable is more passive. In the case of online criminality, it would be merely providing the platform that makes crime possible. Encourage is active. Here it would be assisting the criminals, thus stimulating their activity.

Now the story:

Yesterday morning, I received a friend request from who I thought was a current Facebook friend, Maevyn Stone. It happens, especially when the person is a working…

The summer after my senior year of high school, I boarded a bus that took me to a plane that took me to the Recruit In-Processing Facility Orlando, otherwise known as Navy World, otherwise known as the now-closed Navy boot camp. The first step in my planned career in the US Navy was filled with excitement and trepidation. I was sure I would rise through the ranks as a nuclear technician serving on an aircraft carrier and become a commissioned officer one day.

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Three weeks later, I left the Recruit Out-Processing Facility on my way back home. I suffered an…

Thought on The Inauguration

An Irish Catholic man and his wife who holds a doctorate in Education.

A woman of African and Indian decent and her Jewish husband who don't share a last name.

A new cabinet secretary and his husband.

A Black woman fire fighter labor leader leading and signing the pledge of allegiance.

A Latina Supreme Court Justice.

A queer icon named Gaga smashing the national anthem.

A Latina singing patriotic songs and speaking in Spanish.

A woman serving as host of the ceremony.

A Black police officer cheered for saving members of the Congress.

A white country…

Last week, a mob, a riot, an insurgency of right-wingnuts urged on by our traitorous president and sycophantic members of Congress attacked the Capitol Building of the United States of America. They bloodied and killed police, well, they bloodied the police who weren’t holding the doors for them or taking selfies. They terrorized members of Congress. They destroyed property and stole from The People’s House. They basically acted like right-wingnuts.

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All during the terrorist insurrection, people were asking where the cops were. You could only see a few who were actively trying to stop the vandals. Partly this was due…

I told you about my fan theory about The Dresden Files by Jim Butcher in my last entry. Tarot cards and all that. I offer that as proof that I am indeed a fan of the book series. I’ve been reading it for years. I’ve reread the whole series multiple times. Most of my editions are hardcover. I even own the role-playing game.

It is from the standpoint of a disappointed fan that I say this; there’s no place for someone like me in the Dresdenverse.

As I was rereading the series earlier this year, getting ready for Peace Talks…

Yes, I usually write about LGBTQ+ issues, but I’ve been concentrating that writing on a project that I’m not ready to share on Medium quite yet. (That’s why I haven’t been posting much for a while.) Therefore, I’m going to share a bit of fan theory with you all.

Battle Ground by Jim Butcher (

The Dresden Files by Jim Butcher is a book series that follows the life of Harry Dresden, a Chicago P.I. who just happens also to be a wizard. Books 16 and 17 of the series — Peace Talks and Battle Ground — were released earlier this year, but they are one…

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A while back, I asked the readers of Ask Addi to make comments on why they may have a problem with the term cisgender. The answers I received ran the gamut from “it just sounds weird” to “it’s a slur you trans people made up to attack people like me.” There were also a few who said that people should be able to identify as they wish and not have a term forced on them. Those people are usually cisgender, straight and white; people who have never had an identity marker forced on them. Well, at least not since birth.

So yes, this is about The Great Always Controversy of 2019, a “friend” spreading the misinformation a right-wing site posted, and my reaction to that post.

What actually happened: After Proctor and Gamble added a Venus symbol to the packaging for Always pads, a few trans men and non-binary people who menstruate pointed out to them that not everyone who uses their products identifies with it. …

Sometimes you need to step away from the things you love to keep loving them

The holidays were rough for me this year. Family strife lead to what I hope is a short-term schism.

My dating life has been confusing lately. A rather cruel rejection, followed by an unexpected connection which was followed by . . . I’m not sure what to call it. It’s not a rejection though it’s not fruition either. “Up in the air” might be the best phrase for it.

My professional life has been busy. Not my day job, but my volunteer work and activism have kept me on the go. I’ve assumed positions of responsibility in two organizations in…

Addison Smith

I’m an LGBTQ+ DEI educator, activist, and writer living in the Midwest with my cat. Call me Addi. They/She. Booking and more info at

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